Last night I was scrolling through my Facebook newsfeed, and when I say scrolling, that’s what I do, but fast. I like to see what my friends are up to and look at recipes. I scroll quickly, avoiding controversial posts, animals that have been neglected or worse, and other nonsense.
I saw this heartbreaking video that the actress Valerie Bertinelli made. It reminded me of myself, especially the day someone asked me when I was due. I think my exact words were, “That ship pulled out of the port a long time ago.” I left out the “go fuck yourself” because I was at work.
People who hide behind computers and spew out hateful comments about someone else’s weight are the worst kind of body-shaming scumbag cowards. I wonder if Mrs. Moto, I think that was her name, would say it to Valerie’s face?
Valerie Bertinelli was a kid when she was on the 70s tv show “One day at a time.” She was a spokesperson for a weight loss product and got very thin, but put it back on as I’ve done. I’ve been up and down ever since my 30s.
The photos of my thin, in great shape days, were taken in 2011, a year before I went through and finished menopause. I haven’t been able to look like this again. It’s sad for me to look at those photos of myself. I’m like, “Damn Julz, you looked good!”
Currently, Ms. Bertinelli is on the Food Network, is an excellent cook, has a great palate, and a baker. She just wrote a cookbook, if I recall correctly. Her ex-husband Eddie Van Halen died not too long ago, which makes comments like this even meaner and harder to take.
Why on earth do people think they have the right to body same another person? It’s none of their damn business, and it is extremely damaging and hurtful. Body shaming goes for people who are too thin, short, or tall. People don’t think of those.
Below is the Facebook link to Ms. Bertinelli’s video. It made me cry, and I watched it several times. I actually commented on a famous person’s page, knowing she will never see it, but maybe someone else will going through the same thing.
I told Valerie I was there with her and wrote a painful blog post last month about it. I added the link to the “This is me” post. I just saw that someone liked my comment. Out of 14,000 comments, one of my Bellydance friends, Cherish, loved it. ❤️
If you haven’t read the “This is me” blog post here is the link:
Please think twice I just want to tell those busybody Budzinski’s. When we want your opinion, we will ask for it, simple as that.
Link to video: